Reuben E. Gross, PhD offers warm, active, nonjudgmental, solution-oriented couples counseling and relationship help. He is a highly trained, credentialed, experienced, and caring Marriage Counselor and Psychologist, Licensed In the State of New York as a Psychologist, and in NJ by the New Jersey State Board of Marriage Counselors, and the New Jersey State Board of Psychologists.
He has been in private practice for close to four decades in Teaneck, NJ, Bergen County, with a concurrent practice in New York City while teaching and supervising marriage counselors and psychotherapists, and serving as a professor or clinical supervisor at universities and psychological clinics. He has also chaired professional presentations at annual conferences of the NJ Psychological Association and conducted marital enhancement workshops and communication seminars for married and premarital couples at the Teaneck Community Education Center in Teaneck, New Jersey. For a full description of Dr. Gross' credentials, resume and theoretical orientation, please click here.
Dr. Gross is a very down-to-earth person who offers an approach to marriage counseling, premarital counseling, couples counseling, and individual psychotherapy. As a very experienced marriage counselor and psychologist, he will help you address your individual or couple problems beginning with the first session with highly structured, solution-oriented counseling techniques, and he is geared to working with you as rapidly as possible. He will treat you with respect, dignity, and compassion and will insure maximum confidentiality.
Relationship Help for Married and Unmarried Couples
Marriage and couples counseling (aka couples therapy) is an educational experience that emphasizes self-exploration, self-revelation, and the acquisition of interactive skills, which promote mutual understanding, recognition, respect, appreciation of your partner, and the ability to fulfill your own as well as your partner's expectations in marriage. Other goals of relationship help include learning, developing, and practicing in session with Dr. Gross, and at home, via homework assignments, techniques for constructive communication and conflict-resolution for long-term marital harmony. This approach equips you and your partner with lifetime tools that will enable you to honestly and effectively confront and resolve whatever problems may arise in the future in addition to enhancing your relationship and creating a lifelong harmonious setting with each other. Please click here for six articles on "How Does Marriage And Couple Counseling Work?"
In marriage, or relationship counseling, for married and unmarried couples, Dr. Gross has a highly developed training program to help couples improve their communication on an emotional level as well as on an intellectual level, and grow in their ability to listen and understand their spouse's point of view, and his/her reasons for taking that position. This program is particularly helpful with couples who argue futilely, escalate into fights, or, to protect themselves, withdraw during arguments/fights without resolving their differences, or have become so discouraged that they have virtually stopped communicating altogether about personal relationship issues, or any other sensitive matter and live a roommate type of existence.
Dr. Gross will teach you constructive communication skills, which will enable you and your partner to explore problems as a team and come up with solutions that meet both of your needs. For more information on this subject, please click herefor article "How to Complain Diplomatically and Argue Constructively Without Fighting: Looking for a Win-Win Situation" and click here for "The A-B-C's of Communication" and other articles on developing effective communication skills.
Dr. Gross will help you with a wide variety of other problems and the resulting negative emotions that come to the fore. Couples often report frustration, disappointment, hurt, anger, loneliness, pain and depression due to lack of understanding, diminished affection, loss of friendship, infrequent sex, emotional separation and a general lack of togetherness. Additional areas of concern may involve lack of respect for partner's opinions or feelings, insensitivity to each other's emotional needs and disproportionate outbursts of anger. Dr. Gross will help you explore, evaluate, and agree upon your respective roles and responsibilities to each other, to children (if any, from this or a previous relationship), the day-to-day tasks of living and loving, and making plans for the present and future with each other. In the event that your spouse resists marriage counseling, please click here for "Spouse Resists Marriage Counseling."
Other problems that bring couples to marriage counselors may center about money, interference from in laws, anger management, activities of partner outside of the home, "friend" relationships with ex lovers or ex spouses. Dr. Gross is also sensitive to, and very experienced with crisis situations such as the discovery of online, or in-person, emotional attachments with a member of the opposite sex, as well as lying and suspected --or admitted-- physical intimacy, and the consequent emergence of feelings of betrayal, depression, anger, lack of trust and numerous other emotions which shake the equilibrium of the hurt party and sometimes threaten the future of the marriage. For more information on this shattering experience, click here for article "Can There be a Silver Lining Around The Cloud of Infidelity?"
Reducing Conflict of Couples is Half of the Goal Increasing Harmony and Joy is the Other Half
In addition to helping your reduce the frequency and intensity of your negative interactions, Dr. Gross will help you revive your love relationship with exercises that stimulate expressions of praise, and appreciation to each other on a regular basis. He works with you on exercises that help you reveal to your partner your emotional needs. He will encourage a commitment from each of you to attend to and fulfill those stated needs as much as possible and to engage in enjoyable activities which will enhance your relationship and serve to blend you as a couple. Click here for "The Hidden Agenda in Marriage."
People marry to increase their happiness, not their misery. Nor do they marry to feel alone in the relationship or to spend the rest of their life in frustration, strife, and pain. They want to enjoy life, have fun, and share their thoughts, feelings, and experiences with their spouse in all the complexities of the relationship (partner, companion, friend, playmate...etc). Spouses want to grow together as they age, not apart. Dr. Gross' goal is to help you recapture the love, romance, mutual goodwill, togetherness, kindness, and teamwork that characterized your relationship at its height, or better. This will come about with a greater understanding of --and sensitivity to-- each other's needs and an increased knowledge of what marriage is all about. When you express your new commitment and attitudes to your partner by putting into practice numerous caring behaviors and pleasurable joint activities, you will come closer to your aspired goals with each other, and greatly increase your chances of rekindling some of the magic that characterized the beginning of your relationship.
Dr. Gross Offers Daytime, Evening & Occasional Weekend Hours Prompt Return of Calls Emergency Appointments Upon Request.
Insurance Plans: Dr. Gross is an independent provider, not a member of any managed care network thus assuring clients the utmost in confidentiality and non-interference in your couples counseling, premarital counseling, your marriage counseling or therapy by managed care clerks. HMO insurance plans will not reimburse clients for Dr. Gross' services since HMO's will only pay their in-network providers. Dr. Gross will issue receipts to clients who have a PPO or POS insurance plan so that they may be reimbursed directly by their insurance company according to the plan's benefits.
Contact us at (201) 837-0066 in Bergen County, NJ to speak with a solution-oriented dually licensed Psychologist, Marriage Counseling with 39 years of experience helping couples restore love with Couples Therapy.
With effort and committment you CAN achieve your goals!